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I have a friend, I'll call him "Dave", that was someone I hired at a prior firm five years ago. He's a really nice guy, in his early-to-mid 30's, pretty intelligent, but he doesn't do anything, so sometimes having a conversation with him is difficult. I also don't know how many friends he has, or what he does with most of his time, or what his interests are, if he has any. Anyway, here's the problem I have:
Linda and I have been taking wine tasting courses for a couple of years. At one of the courses, we sat at a table with four women. The six of us hit it off grand, and, after the wine course, we got into a pattern where each of us would host a "wine-tasting" dinner every month or two. These things usually start at 7:00 and go well past midnight. Needless to say, all six of us enjoy them immensely.
Two weeks ago, Linda and I had our annual backyard barbecue. "Dave" was there, and so was one of the women from the wine-tasting group. I guess the subject of where they knew us from came up, and led into an explanation of the wine-tasting dinners, etc., etc. Anyway, "Dave" expressed an "interest" in learning about wines, and in "participating" in these dinners. Linda and I are hosting the next one in a month or so, and when this woman confirmed in a phone message, she reminded us that "Dave" was interested. Needless to say, this pisses me off because I feel that "Dave" is trying to insinuate himself in this circle of friends that Linda and I have. He doesn't know about the dinner, so I don't have to worry about rebuffing him on that. But I know at some point when I see him in the future this subject will come up, and I'm at a loss as to how to handle it diplomatically. (My first instinct is to give him $20 and tell him to go buy himself some friends. ) Has anyone had any experience with someone like this? What's the best way for me to handle this?
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Jim if you don't want to invite him, then don't. It's your party and you can invite or not invite whovever you choose. If this friend of yours wants to invite "Dave" then she can invite him when she hosts a dinner.
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Invite him to your party and tell him to bring a nice bottle or two of, say, Silver Oak. In fact, tell him its "cab" night and bring a Heitz as well!
He'll fit in just fine and your wine buds will look forward to his appearance in the future.
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) Has anyone had any experience with someone like this? What's the best way for me to handle this?
